I thought I'd all share with you that my 48-year-old aunt exchanged vows with her boyfriend of 4 years yesterday.  This got me thinking about another blog idea: the notion that we have to do things at a particular time without slowing down and taking the time to enjoy all the qualities life has to offer.

The common sayings like, 'there are plenty of fish in the sea' or 'if something's meant to be, will be' can sometimes resonate as cliche or be a discouraging concept to someone because we've placed time frames for when something should happen or major emphasis on something happening in a certain way.  With referring to my aunt's recent wedding at her age, it really made me feel that being 25-years-old shouldn't have to be scary to me when it comes to preparing my life for major changes.  While lately I've been undergoing changes and doing things that go toward my future, such as starting a business and making a career move into a slightly different field I can't help but be scared about such common fears like, "will this work out?," "am I doing the right thing?."  Lately, the concept of marriage has crossed my mind "should I be considering marriage or finding the right person because I am getting 'old'?"

I think what I should also consider is that there will be a time for anything (whether you believe in fate or meant-to-be) and it will happen at the time it does.  For my aunt it was the age of 48-years-young and for others it could be at 25 (or even less!).  What I have to really consider about is living and enjoying my life as it happens.  Worrying about the future will always happen but I must follow my heart for what I feel is right at this current time.  I've made some decisions that I am not too proud of, even let go of a person I've believed was 'The One' from the moment he walked into my classroom three years ago (including gushing to friends about it... probably one of my mistakes!).  But I think in instances like this, I should leave it up to the ol' saying: "if it's meant to be, it will be."  If certain things are not "meant-to-be" then the time when everything becomes clear will come eventually! Point is, there is no time frame of when things should occur.  They happen instantaneously, especially when you're caught off-guard.... it's the sponteniety that makes living in the present a constant surprise that rejuvinates your life in so many magical ways!

Don't say "I'm waiting for my life to happen".... instead say, "It's happening now... what happens next will be a great surprise when it arrives!"

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